Update January 16th: It is never too late to submit your posts! I’m not going to do the wrap up until Monday night Europe time, so feel free to keep submitting posts. In the meantime, browse the comments on this post! Thanks EVERYONE for your feedback, I’m so happy with all of your articles and comments. I didn’t expect this kind of feedback and am grateful and happy!
Some of you may know that this week is ten years since I took my shahada. It is also going on six years since I started blogging (for those of you who remember the DP days). The blogosphere, and the internet in general, are not what they were when I started out. Muslim convert blogs have come and gone. Some of us are still going strong, some of us have left Islam completely, others have suffered the heartbreak of divorce, polygamy (more on that below) miscarriage and loss. Those of us still around don’t have the same ideas about Islam that we did five and ten years ago. And this is why I want to do a blog carnival on Convert Truths. We’re neither here nor there, at a crossroads between religion(s) and culture(s), and always, even after years of being Muslim, not quite right and out of place (hat tip to those who get my reference here).
Going back to polygamy, I got the idea for this blog carnival from a rather disgusting yet well-meaning link sent from one of my dearest friends because she knew I would laugh. A very bitter laugh indeed. It was a link from a new blogger and new Muslimah essentially giving the tired, over-zealous new convert-itis apologist arguments for polygamy (arguments which my long-term convert blogging sisters know all too well). Despite the lack of originality in her reasoning, I appreciated her enthusiasm; however, I’m not optimistic that either her reasoning or her enthusiasm will be stable or sustainable in the long run. In my personal case, my separation and impending divorce threw me for a loop. While I wasn’t part of the “converts who convert for their husbands” the way I view my Islam has changed. I stopped wearing hijab, I slack on a few things now which would have been unthinkable a year ago. I have changed, we have changed and the face of converts in the blogosphere has changed. A lot of the dinosaurs are gone, the dinosaurs who are still here have changed, and the new blogs I see seem to sadly repeat the mistakes us dinosaurs made in 2005-2006. I’m not saying I’m arrogant and that new converts today have nothing to teach me or that one necessarily has to think like me to “get it”- what I am saying is that it makes me sad to see these new bloggers who think they have all the answers, that Islam is the panacea, that the handy translated Bukhari online is a treasure trove for instant fatawa, and that your husband/wife is the best, most deeni Back Home Person anyone has ever had, ever.
So for this blog carnival I am interested in exploring a series of themes related to Muslim converts and blogging:
-Marriage and Divorce to “Born Muslims”: Get your flags out: Which country fields the best spousal units? Are you now an EXPERT on your spouse’s home country?!
-Converts and our Mosques and Masajid: Five plus years of bitching about it online: will we ever have a place? How many years did it take for the bouncers to stop giving you the side eye and make you say the fatihah to get through the door for jummah?
- Polygamy: Not just for non-virgin convert patriarchy apologists anymore?
-Muslims and Ex-Muslims: Joining Islam and leaving Islam isn’t just about shitty marriages to perverts…or is it?
-The Hijab Wars: Are you a REAL CONVERT if you don’t wear one? Or can only born Muslims not wear hijab and still get away with owning their Islam?
-Convert on Convert violence: why do we always one-up each other? Why don’t we marry each other, instead?
1. Add your post to the trackbacks or comments to the post. On January 16th I will post links to the articles I have received here, and you are free to post as well.
2. Anyone can write about us. Converts, non converts…Muslims, non Muslims…
3. Help me tweet and FB the eff out of this.
Can’t wait to see y’alls posts. XOXO Nicole